They're your Parents, Too!

They're your Parents, Too!

How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents' Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy

Book - 2010
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Your parents are growing older and are getting forgetful, starting to slow down, or worse. Suddenly you find yourself at the cusp of one of the most important transitions in your life--and the life of your family. Your parents need you and your siblings to step up and take care of them, a little or a lot. To make the right things happen, you will all need to work together. And yet your siblings may have very different ideas from yours of what's best for Mom and Dad. They may be completely uninterested in helping, leaving you with all the responsibility. Or they may take charge and not allow you to help, or criticize whatever help you do give. Will you and your siblings be able to reach an understanding and work together, or will the challenges you face tear you apart?
Most of us enter this period of our lives unprepared for the difficult decisions and delicate negotiations that lie ahead. This is the first book that provides guidance on the transition from the old family to the new one, especially for adult siblings. Here you'll find practical advice on a wide range of topics including
- Who will make major medical decisions, manage finances, and enforce end-of-life choices if your parents cannot? And how will this be decided and carried out?
- How will you negotiate caregiving issues and deal with unequal contributions or power struggles?
- How can inheritance and the division of property, assets, and personal effects be handled to minimize hurt feelings and resentment?
- How will you cope with the natural reemergence of unresolved childhood rivalries, hurts, and needs?
- How can caring for your parents be an enriching experience rather than a thankless chore?
- Most important, how can you ensure the best care for your parents while lessening conflict, guilt, anger, and angst?
Written by a veteran journalist who chronicles life and how baby boomers live it, They're Your Parents, Too offers all the information, insight, and advice you'll need to make productive choices as you and your siblings begin to assume your parents' place as the decision-making generation of your family.
Filled with expert guidance from gerontologists, family therapists, elder-care attorneys, financial planners, and health workers; resonant real-life stories; and helpful family negotiation techniques, this is an indispensable book for anyone whose parents are aging.
Publisher: New York : Bantam Books, [2010], ©2010
Edition: First edition
ISBN: 9780553806991
Branch Call Number: 646.78084 Ru
Description: xvi, 286 pages ; 25 cm


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Grown kids acting like, well, kids when their parents really need them is an all too common problem.

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This book is always available in the PlaneTree Health Information Center @ Cupertino Library. GK 200 R 2010

May 26, 2010

Pop psychology about working with your siblings as your parents age. Nothing startling, but a good overview of some of the problems that may arise and how siblings can deal with them.


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